The alarm clock rings, sluggishly you climb out of bed. After the initial sting of the ringing ends, you make a mad dash to get dressed, grab something to eat and if you have kids the morning routine is further intensified. Mornings are a blur. You quickly give your spouse a kiss on the cheek and head out the door.
After traffic, meetings, work, and t-ball practice, you slip into bed exhausted. Another day over. The alarm clock rings and it starts all over again.
Lets be honest, the daily grind assaults and destroys our marriages.
When you spend time with your spouse, you are making an investment. If you don’t invest in your marriage, you are leaving it depleted and drained. In order to make this investment, you will need to make plans to spend time with your spouse and plan to communicate.
Here a 5 low cost investments that will pay dividends in your marriage:
- Strengthen your spiritual connection: Wake up 15 minutes earlier each day. Use this time to pray, read a devotional, and spiritually connect. A study conducted several years ago concluded couples who pray together are 75% more likely to be satisfied in their marriage.
- Send your spouse a loving or encouraging text during the day. Too often when we communicate with our spouse it sounds more like a strategy meeting than it does a conversation between friends. Proverbs 12:25 tells us “anxiety weights down a heart, but a kind word cheers him up.”
- Hug and hold hands – When you give someone a 20 second hug, your body releases a “love” hormone called oxytocin. This won’t only be good for your marriage, its also good for your health, resulting in less stress. Make time to physically connect with your spouse.
- Laugh together – Trite but true laughter is the best medicine. Laughing together helps to strengthen your relationship by creating a bond. Finding laughter in your day also aids in stress reduction and decreases conflict.
- Establish a date night routine – This needed by expensive or fancy. Find events or things that interest you and your spouse. Here’s a website with 140 different date nights options http://www.tipjunkie.com/post/date-night/. The main objective in date night is to have fun and reconnect. Remember dates before marriage? They didn’t involve talking about bills or the kids – it was about learning about each other.
Marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts. Its far too easy to neglect this precious gift. Fight for your marriage. Care for it. Nurture it. This is one investment you will be grateful you made.
Blessings to you,
(Married for 20 years and counting, striving to daily implement these steps)
If you would like to talk to someone about how to implement these steps or if you are feeling stuck in your marriage, please contact me for professional counseling, www.melissaclarkcounseling.com