The Power of Your Words Judgment, a harsh tone, criticism, sarcasm, name-calling, and derogatory language. These are some common pitfalls of communication. In times of conflict, you may find yourself cursing, name-calling, or blaming your partner. You may be trying to gain power in the conflict, asserting yourself in order to be heard, or attacking […]
Marriage Monday
Protect your marriage from this relationship killer
Is this killing your relationship? Nothing kills a relationship faster than unrealistic expectations. Unrealistic expectations cause division in a relationship and with time, division results in the death of a relationship. Over time and after a lot of hurt feelings, I realized that I was squashing my spouse’s confidence by demanding and expecting certain things. […]
Loving Even When You Don’t Want To
I don’t know what your marriage is like. I don’t know the hurts and disappointments that you’ve faced. But I do know this— you have a choice in how you are going to respond to those challenges. Most of the couples I work with in my counseling practice are wanting and needing the same thing […]
Marriage Frustrations Because of the Pandemic?
Has the pandemic left you feeling frustrated with your marriage? You’ve been furloughed. You’re stuck at home with your spouse and/or children all day. You’re on another Zoom call instead of communicating face-to-face. In crisis, it’s normal to feel frustrated and exhausted. When you are feeling frustrated, it’s easy to let those frustrations spill into […]
Date Night
Earlier this week, my husband and I were chatting about ways to have a date night in the midst of the challenges associated with shelter-in-place. “We could have the kids go upstairs, and I could grill steaks and baked potatoes,” my husband suggested. As he said this, I looked over to see my son’s eyes […]